Consultation and Marriage

THE PROPHET (SALLALLAHU ALAIHI WA SALLAM) used to discuss certain matters with his wives and ask their advise.

  • On receiving the first revelation, the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) went to his wife Khadijah (radhiallahu anha) who became a Muslim, consoled him and took him to her learned cousin for advise.
  • At Hudaybiyyah, when the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) ordered the Sahaaba to shave their heads, slaughter their animals and return to Madinah without performing Umrah, they remained in their places. He asked his wife Umme Salamah (radhiallahu anha) and she advised that as he was the Messenger, he should shave his head and slaughter and the people will follow suit. The Prophet (sallallahu alahi wa sallam) did so and the people followed.
  • Umar (radhiallahu anhu) said, "May Allah have Mercy upon the one who points out my shortcomings." Because a wife usually knows her husband better than anyone else, it is her place to offer him constructive criticism and it is his duty to consider it.