How is one supposed to survive in an environment of scantily dressed people of the opposite sex? Should I isolate myself from society to escape such temptations? No. With every trial and difficulty Allah always provides us practical defensive tools.
What’s Wrong With A Lustful Gaze? Many wonder what’s wrong with lustfully staring at the attractive features of the opposite gender? A saying of the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) sums it up: ‘The furtive glance is one of the poisoned arrows of the devil... Whoever forsakes it for the fear of Allah, will receive from Him a faith, the sweetness of which he will find within his heart.’ (Haakim). Allah commands men and women to lower their gazes. [Qur’aan 24:30-1]
Ways To Survive On Temptation Island!
Allah’s Remembrance (Dhikr) is the most powerful defence. It soothes the soul. [Qur’aan]
Hangout with those known for good character. A Hadith says, ‘A person is likely to follow the faith of his friends, so be careful about who you make your friend.’ [Ahmad]
Surf the net when others are around. The temptation to look at dirty pictures is heightened when alone. Avoid visiting malls or beaches alone. A narration says, ‘He who breaks away (from the group of Muslims) shall go alone in Hell.’
For Brothers, remember your Mom and Sister. Disgusting right? Exactly! No sane person would look at his mom or sister the way many of us lust after girls. This thought should sicken you enough to stop. This is the advice that the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) gave to a Sahaabi.
What Do I Get In Return?
1) A Hadith says: ‘...Whosoever gives up something for the sake of Allah, Allah will replace it with something better than it!’
2) One’s heart will be filled with a sweetness which no drug can induce.
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