Messenger
The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) stated: "None of you should fall upon his wife like an animal but let there be first a messenger between you." The Sahaaba asked: "And what is that messenger?" He replied: "Kisses and words." (Daylami)
It is well to remember that this was centuries before the rest of the world recognised the need for a woman to be satisfied sexually, as well as the importance of foreplay.
Beating
The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) is reported to have said: "How could they beat their women in the daytime as they beat slaves and then sleep with them in the night (as lovers)?"
Muslim men cannot commit violence on their wives when they are exhorted to be so gentle
The most perfect belief is of those who are best mannered and most tender to their wives
