Shura or consultation is an essential characteristic of a Muslim. The Muslim family, like all other Muslim institutions must be run with mutual consultation. This process, if adopted by the family as a way of life, will benefit tremendously in the long run. Here are some tips to help encourage your kids to communicate effectively and participate in family Shura:
Children open up informally more than formally. Two minute sound bites from them in a car may provide more insight into what they feel than forced conversation.
Avoid electronic overload: TV, stereos, computers etc. are a convenient way for kids to close off from their parents.
Reward a good idea with praise or a gift.